CALM YOURSELF - ATTEND TO THE STRESS REACTION IN YOUR MIND AND BODY –
Try to maintain a daily practice that involves bringing equilibrium to the mind and body, so that when you are dealing with stressful situations your set point of equilibrium is not so difficult to contact and maintain. This practice may be for some having a meditation practice, for others it may be taking a walk, or singing. Simply: it may be focusing on the breath: 5 breaths in /five breaths out of equal length/ hand on belly and breath into belly/ inhale deeply and long exhale making a noise as you do so……) Whatever, you choose to do, there needs to be a palpable sensation of relaxation in the body in response to the practice. Notice the change in your energy.
Have at least 4 different ways to calm yourself. You can practice regularly with your child also, particularly during the times when you and your child are both experiencing attunement. (as it can be fun and the child is more receptive to you during these times) Laughter together is also stress relieving and collaborative. It is a fact that, Laughter and shame are unable to co-habit the brain at the same time! Enjoy!